Let me start by saying that I do not look down on those who are divorced and I fully understand that for some people there was no other option or it was completely one sided. I am in no way judging you if you have been there. My point of this is for the people who have no respect for marriage as a whole:
More and more I see people who do not respect marriage or the divine union it creates. I have seen so many friends/family members post on social media how excited they are that their divorce is final and that they are free and it is so heartbreaking. Some have emailed me for prayer for a friend or family member whose spouse doesn’t want to be married anymore and wants the single life and they don’t know what they can do to fix it. I also see people excited when they get time away from their spouse or family and it makes me so sad. That is not what God intended for us.
I have seen people struggle in their marriages and go on to have the most amazing marriage and true happiness. This makes me cry everytime I think about it. How awesome it is when they beat the odds and hold tight to that person and to the promises of God and are able to come out better on the other side!!
Even more so I see people who have not been taught God’s desires for the marriage union. I don’t pretend to know everything and we are only 5 months into our marriage ourselves, but I can tell you it is the most amazing relationship you can ever imagine! For the longest time I thought i’d be single forever and that there were no decent guys out there. I knew that my parents prayed very often that God would work in the life of my future husband and deliver him to me in His timing, but I stopped believing it was true except for a small part of me. Ryan and I started dating at the most inopportune time in our lives per human standards. I had just lost my job and no idea what I would do and he was in training to head to Afghanistan for a year. We took everything very slow and both prayed from the beginning for God’s blessings. I can never put into words what a miracle our relationship is. God put His blessings on it from the get go and it keeps getting better everyday. Every little thing I ever prayed for in my future soulmate, He is and so much more that I didn’t think of to pray for!
Marriage is God’s gift to us as a representative of our relationship to God. It is the strongest union/bond that exists on this earth. I think one of the worst things society could have ever done was to even create divorce…it was never in God’s plan and there is no earthly way to break a Heavenly covenant. It makes me sad that some people have even openly admitted to trying to break up someone’s marriage or “praying” for its end. How can you pray that God will do something which he has said he detests? (Malachi 2:16) My parents always put each other first no matter what even when it came to us kids…they always had a united front. In the end, your kids grow up and begin their own lives and that should be the time of strengthening your marriage even more…of traveling and enjoying “retirement”. My prayer is that everyone can be as happy as us or even more so. It makes me so sad when I see people who don’t understand what it means when people get married and start their own family unit. I’ve even heard people say that a sister/mother/father should be the most important person in someone’s life…even people who are married themselves. Your spouse should ALWAYS be the most important person in your life…no matter what. I’m so thankful for how our relationship has already changed and grown even closer through our marriage. It is an amazing, indescribable feeling to know that I am one with him and I have someone who loves and supports me and has my back no matter what or who comes against us.
Okay, enough rambling…just another day deep in thought.