I recently changed the name of the blog to “Team Grim” since this has really become more of a place for my family than for just me and my thoughts. When I originally started my blog it was to get out some of my thoughts and feelings about my husband’s (then boyfriend) first year long deployment. Now it has become a way to document some of our life together and the excitement/difficulties that we face. “Team Grim” was started as a bit of a cute name for ourselves when we got married and stuck when we started running our obstacle course races together. I truly believe that marriage makes you a team and that has never been more apparent than it has in the past year-ish of our lives and dealing with infertility, but i’ll share more on that later.
As most people do, we had a lot thrown at us in our first year of marriage and even a bit prior to our wedding. Surprisingly to some though, there were never issues between the two of us. Ryan was gone for a total of about 9 of our first 15 months of marriage. We started PCS-ing (permanently relocating for those non-military friends) about a month in and he had several schools to attend in order to be spun up for a new unit. That led to multiple TDY’s, schools and a deployment to close out the year. On top of that we had a few very painful family situations relating to both health and relationships that gave us no choice but to learn to depend on each other and God.
I truly believe that our relationship has been made easier by keeping God at the center of our marriage. We prepared a lot for our marriage beforehand and I prayed often for my future husband before we ever started dating. I’m a firm believer that everyone should spend considerably more time preparing for the marriage than for the wedding (as beautiful, magical and fun as ours was). Recently we’ve been told by a few people, who we respect dearly, that we should start training/outreach to other married couples. While I think we still have a lot to learn about marriage ourselves, this truly touched me to hear that people believe that we are on the right track and have something to give back to others. With me as the aspiring counselor, who knows what may be in store for our future 🙂
“I’m a firm believer that everyone should spend considerably more time preparing for the marriage than for the wedding.”
I don’t say any of the above to brag on us as people, but to demonstrate how much God can lead a marriage when you continuously give it over to Him. I want to be a testament to others that marriage can be wonderful and fulfilling! There is no way that we would be this strong and still so much in love were it not for His love and guidance. We are still learning every day to trust in Him as we face the most difficult journey of all so far, but we wholeheartedly believe that He will give us the desires of our hearts. As a dear family friend and former teacher reminded us this week that faith is what it takes:
“He replied, “Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” – Matthew 17:20